It has been quieter in the house, greyer and glummer. It has been autumn for a year, really, since Fei married P and moved across the street. A couple of days after his marriage I added him as a Facebook friend, figuring we would need a proxy den of some sort to still be plugged into each other’s lives. It isn’t the same though.
Scrolling up and down your Facebook homepage for your brother’s status updates isn’t the same as being plugged into the quotidian rhythms of his life – the comings and goings, the gripes and jokes, the slouching and shuffling, the stuff and nonsense, the sleepy guitar-strumming and drowsy late-night chatting – the background buzz of your life you took for granted for the longest time.
Our childhood had been a long, long winter. Gothic, almost. We feared our father, who was combustible as an anxious young father (always anxious about how he was to afford us all), and we learnt to tiptoe round him as young children. He wasn’t violent towards us; only towards my little rocking horse, which he smashed in a rage when I was too small to remember. I knew he would never hurt me; we knew better than to trigger one of his explosions, however. We were never to be noisy at night when, at the end of a working day, he came home to our three-room and went to his room to cram for his numerous ACCA exams. We had to be good, go to the playground downstairs and stay there with our mother. We were the last to leave, at times long after we tired of playing in the sand, after the others had gone home and gone to bed. Fei, the sleepyhead, would be all bleary-eyed before we could trudge home.
If and when our mother took us shopping – if and when she got us something ever so slightly costly – we would agree to report a much lower price to our father. He didn’t (and doesn’t) like onions so we wouldn’t get any at night. We got them in the day in our mother’s rice vermicelli stew. It was our favourite food; it was our secret food. He didn’t like listening to SBC Mandarin so we would watch serials on the sly. When he went on his first business trip we went on a spree too: a month to openly watch an SBC serial from start to finish! It was a luxury for our mother too, much as she did miss him.
Things thawed out a little, after he gave up the exams and swopped one set of habits (exams and cigarettes) for another (exercise and oat). Then Bak was born and with him, spring. Our father was out of a job in a recession year, the worst year to have one more child. Yet, Bak was for us, from the first day, a happy child. A child we were glad to have. He was born during the school holidays, the day after our mother did her all Chinese New Year shopping in advance of the confinement. If she had cabbed back, if she had not bussed back and hauled bags of food home from the bus stop, if she had not been so cost-conscious, he might not have arrived so soon. But he did and the fact that he was born weeks too soon for a tax rebate was something our father joked about. He didn’t mind too much. Bak got a dad quite different from the one we got.
Then Grandma (the woman kept in the metaphorical attic of our house, in my room) died. We got jobs, Fei and I. Ma and Pa’s worries melted away, most of them. Summer was upon us – seven, eight, nine years of it.
It is no more though. On the wall of portraits in the living room there is a new addition, two photographs of the newlyweds in one frame (a work by Biu Suk, like all the portraits on the wall). The house is barer though. They come home now and then for dinner (our home), stop for a while for whatever is showing on television and go home (their home). The house is quieter – but there they go again, Ma and Pa, going at each other, louder and louder. Isn’t it a relief.
